What it means to “be in the middle”

and why I like it that way

For most of my life, I’ve been searching for clarity. The right answer. The clean ending. The black or white.

But life, healing, parenting, and growth—none of them are that simple. They all happen in the middle. In the messy, uncertain, unfiltered grey.

This space—where things aren’t fully healed but no longer broken, where I’m doing my best but still fumbling—is where I’ve spent most of my emotional life. And for a long time, I thought that meant I was failing. That I should have “arrived” by now. That I should be sure. That I should be more.

But “in the middle” doesn’t mean stuck.
It means human.

I’m a psychotherapist, and I sit with people every day who are navigating this same middle space.

People who know their patterns but haven’t yet figured out how to change them.
People who are healing, but still hurting.
People who are growing, but also grieving.

And I get it—not just professionally, but personally. I’ve lived this. I am living it. And I believe we need more honest conversations about what it means to be in that in-between.

Because healing isn’t a straight line. Parenting isn’t a checklist. And being a therapist doesn’t make me immune to the very things I support others through.

Our culture pushes us toward extremes: good/bad, right/wrong, strong/weak. But the truth is, most of life happens in the space between. And I think we do ourselves—and each other—a disservice when we don’t make room for that grey.

In my work, I talk a lot about holding complexity. It’s one of the most sacred parts of therapy: helping people see that two things can be true at the same time. That progress doesn’t always feel good. That growth can coexist with grief. That you can be deeply self-aware and still feel stuck.

Accepting the grey means letting go of the illusion of certainty.
It means learning to live in process, not just outcomes.
It means seeing ourselves and others with compassion, even when things are unfinished.

Whether you're navigating your own mental health, learning to parent in a more conscious way, or just trying to survive the emotional rollercoaster of being human—this space is for you.

Not because I have it all figured out.
But because I don’t.
And I think we need more spaces that admit that—even from therapists.

So this is me, in the middle.
Not at the end.
Not at the start.
Just here—with you—in the grey.

And honestly? That’s where the real work happens.Don’t worry about sounding professional. Sound like you. There are over 1.5 billion websites out there, but your story is what’s going to separate this one from the rest. If you read the words back and don’t hear your own voice in your head, that’s a good sign you still have more work to do.

Be clear, be confident and don’t overthink it. The beauty of your story is that it’s going to continue to evolve and your site can evolve with it. Your goal should be to make it feel right for right now. Later will take care of itself. It always does.